This post is dedicated to my girls. You know who you are! I’ve written about you before and I’ll write about you again. Some of you have seen my darkest moments, some have seen my greatest wins, and some of you have seen it all. Thank you for loving me through all of it. You mean more than you’ll ever know.
I’ve been thinking about this post for days and I haven’t been very intentional about sitting down and writing it! I apologize to anyone who may have needed to read these words sooner.
Over 4 years ago, I walked into my CrossFit gym carrying so much extra weight. Not just physical weight, but mental and emotional heaviness. I had no idea how my daily training in that gym would seep into the core of all of these issues. Sometimes I would find myself in a fight to push through a physical barrier and realize that the mental barrier was the bigger issue! I have cried more tears onto that gym floor than anyone I’m sure! (Ask my gym friends. They’ve all seen it! Multiple times. Haha.) I’m not ashamed of it. That’s just me. I am naturally an emotional person so it was inevitable that tears would come, so I am so thankful for the people who were around me when they came on the scene. I am writing about them today because I believe that the connection with the people around you is vital to your overall wellness, success, happiness, and fulfillment in life. I was thinking about several of the people that God has allowed me to cross paths with over the last few years and I just wondered… what makes these particular friends at this particular season of my life seem to own such prime real estate in my heart? It occurred to me like some huge epiphany… they saw me completely STRIPPED DOWN. No masks. Totally vulnerable. No pretending. Outside of every possible comfort zone.
And they still loved me.
Most of us don’t go to the gym with make-up on. Our hair is usually slicked back and mostly a mess. Maybe you start out looking pretty good, but by the end of the workout, you’ve sweated off any cute you had! I didn’t realize it, but that mattered in my transforming of body, mind and spirit. I went to the gym every day without thinking about what I looked like. On top of that, I had days where I cried in front of these people. In the middle of a workout! For all I knew, they thought I had a screw loose for sure! If they thought that, they never let on. They cheered me on. They encouraged me. They pushed me.
I will say this because I don’t want you to paint the wrong picture of me in the gym. I imagine you picture me completely loosing it and dramatically sobbing! It wasn’t like that at all… well, except that one time 🙂 Most of the time, tears would well up. I would want to quit the workout. I would wrestle all of the excuses and keep going with tears in my eyes. I created this habit over time.
Tears or no tears… we don’t quit.
It was in this place, this place of feeling completely stripped down that I could be my most authentic self. THE BEST ME! I guess I didn’t realize how completely fulfilling it is to connect with people when there are NO MASKS. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that I’m not being myself when I wear make-up or when I’m not in the gym! Please don’t hear that because that is NOT what I mean.
My point here is that we can truly CONNECT with people when we “let our hair down” and be vulnerable with one another.
Sometimes, this is hard. Have you ever tried to share something you are ashamed of? Even if it’s your bestest friend, exposing your darkness is scary! But, honey, healing can only happen in the light. God wants to love you through the people He has placed around you, but you have to be open to them. If you isolate yourself, darkness will only expand. You were designed to flourish in community, so don’t’ be afraid to let people see you!
We were wired for relationship! That is why the comparison game is so detrimental to us. We flourish TOGETHER! We were meant to fight each others battles together. Cry together. Laugh together. If my friend is hurting, I’m hurting.
If she is winning, I AM WINNING!
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